Are you concerned about the future of your relationship? If you and your partner are not meant to be together, or if your relationship is beginning to fail, you will see warning signs. Here are 13 indications that your relationship is over or ending.
You don’t care about telling your partner your news.
When something important happens in your life, your partner is usually the first person you call. If you are not interested in telling your partner your news, it’s a sign that you don’t value the relationship like you once did.
Your partner is spending more energy on other relationships.
When two people are in a relationship, they are typically spending a lot of energy on each other. When your partner begins spending more energy on friends and family than on you, that may indicate that the importance of the relationship is beginning to fade.
Everything your partner does annoys you.
At the start of a relationship, you probably saw your partner’s quirky habits as cute or endearing. Later on, you might have begun to see some habits as annoying. But if everything your partner does seems to annoy you, you have to question whether or not you really want to be in the relationship.
You don’t make time to be alone together.
Spending time alone should be a priority for any relationship. If it’s not important to you anymore or worse, you avoid spending time alone, it’s a sign it may be time to end the partnership.
Physical intimacy feels forced.
Whether or not you are sleeping together, the physical aspect of your relationship should come naturally. If you feel like you have to force physical affection, you may be forcing emotional feelings as well.
You find it difficult to talk to your partner.
When two people are in a healthy relationship, they spend time communicating. You may find that you no longer feel you can talk to your partner. Maybe the other person doesn’t seem to understand what you are trying to say or is just not interested in conversation, or maybe you are the one who does not understand your partner anymore.
You no longer follow traditions.
Every couple develops certain traditions over time. Whether that is eating Chinese food on Friday nights, taking a drive on Sundays, or some other thing you do together, you probably have activities that you have done together in a particular way or at a certain time. When those traditions become irrelevant, the relationship may be irrelevant as well.
You fight a lot.
Most couples fight, but it’s not normal to fight all the time. When conflict is more common than peace, you may have a problem.
You don’t want to go home.
Do you make excuses not to go home to your partner? If you will do anything to not have to walk through the door and see your other half, you need to do some soul-searching to decide if this relationship is really right for you.
You don’t talk about your future together.
Couples tend to talk a lot about their plans for the future, whether that’s a vacation they will take together, a major life event like getting married, or just discussing ideas like how many children they’d like to have. If you no longer talk about your future in terms of the two of you together, it shows that you are not thinking of each other as part of your future.
You are interested in someone else.
If you’ve developed feelings for someone else, you can no longer give all of your romantic attention to your partner. If you decide to pursue someone else, then you owe it to your partner to break it off first.
You fantasize about leaving.
Do you spend time thinking about what life would be like if you left the relationship? You are probably fantasizing about what your heart really wants.
You’ve tried to fix it and failed.
If you’ve been to counseling and made a serious effort to fix the relationship but you are still having problems, you might just be the wrong fit for each other. Sometimes you just have to realize that you are not in a healthy, compatible relationship, and you need to cut your losses and start over.
The end of a relationship isn’t the end of the world. You can rebuild your life and find love again. If you are seeing these signs that your partnership is failing, you will need to decide if you are going to stay and work for the success of the relationship or if you are going to end things. While a failed partnership can be painful, you may find that it turns out to be the best decision of your life.